My Transformation from Stuck to Sticky

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Waking up to my life, getting unstuck, and finding my health and happiness did not happen with a snap of a finger.  My journey from being stuck in my goals to creating a vision that allows me to stick to achieving and maintaining my health and happiness is a daily practice I enjoy.

The Secret Language of Birthdays declares my birthday as The Day of Dogged-Persistence. Hindsight says, this is true!

My tendency is to allow my dogged-persistence to get me stuck.  It has my entire life.  I am very determined and when I set a goal, I achieve it.  The goal is the goal, regardless.  I put on blinders, hunker down and get to it.  Yes, that can be good but it comes at a cost.  My blinders can be too effective. In the past, I did not think about a big picture or have a vision.  I knew nothing of adjusting my goal and learning from my experiences.  Now, I believe that is what life is about.  Live each day.  Enjoy successes and learn from experiences.  Adjust as you need to.  Constantly change.  Pay attention.

I grew up believing that when you set a goal, you achieve it.  Not a bad way to grow up.  I won’t go into the details of my youth.  Let’s just say my grades were good, my parents never had to worry, and I don’t have wild stories to tell from high school or college.

Jumping ahead to 2000 I was married to a great guy and I had a great job and great
friends.  I was completing my thesis for my second Masters degree.  But I woke up many nights thinking … This is not my life! It was not a bad life but it wasn’t right for me.  I was stuck and I did not know how to get out … this was what I have been working toward. This was the goal, right?  I reached the goal, but I was stuck.  This was the beginning of waking up and realizing there is more to life than reaching goals.  Sadly, my marriage ended (that will always hurt).  I finished the masters course work but I did not complete my thesis.  I learned that success is not always about what you acquire but it may be achieved by letting go.  That was a huge lesson!

I wish that was the end of my learning journey.  It was tough but only the beginning. There would be lots more letting go.  Fast forward 2013ish … I am stuck.  I had a good paying job.  I was in a relationship with a great guy.  I ran almost daily and my yoga practice was strong.  I owned an adorable home.  Again, here’s the “but”.  I was often saying “Once I get through this, everything will be better.  That’s when I will be happy.” The this I was “getting through” was my life.  As far as I know, I only get one life and I was not living it. I was enduring it.  The relationship of four plus years had a mutual ending.  I resigned from my global, corporate position of nine years.

With time, I began a new relationship and a new job.  I wish I could tell you my life was all roses.  Nope, not yet, doggedly-persistent and obviously a slow learner.  The new relationship and job were learning experiences and not the stuff of dreams.  Relationship lasted a few months.  Job … let’s just say we did not part on good terms.  I was payed-off to leave.  Can’t say anything else because I signed a contract saying I would never speak of it.  I think that says enough.  The good news, I was much faster at getting unstuck.  I set a record, under a year.

Fast forward … Poe Wellness Solutions. With years experience at being stuck, it was time for a change.  The timeline for acknowledging my stuckness was shorter. That was a plus but I knew I could do better. My passion for health of mind and body, years of yoga practice and health coaching experience became tools for developing the process for transforming stuckness into stickiness.  I am no longer intertwined with my goals.  Yes, I have goals.  But they are no longer the driving force. They are no longer the end.  My goals are the milestones along the way.  Now, I have a bigger picture.  A vision that matters to me, a purpose, a passion.  It took time to create and it needs tending to.  My vision provides direction and motivation, a stickiness that keeps me on track.  I experience success.  I fall short.  I learn.  I keep moving.  I am not stuck on the achievement of my goals but instead motivated by the stickiness of the bigger picture, passion and purpose of my life.

The happy ending?  I don’t see an ending.  It’s an evolution, a continuous transformation from stuck to sticky.

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Meg Poe

Meg Poe is The Coaching Yogi, founder and owner of Poe Wellness Solutions, Integrative Health Coach and teacher of movement and mindfulness. She graduated from UNC-Chapel Hill with a Masters in Exercise Physiology, is a Duke University certified Integrative Health Coach and a 500 hour Registered Yoga Teacher. As a National Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach, Meg partners with individuals and groups as they wake up to their mind, body, life, health and happiness. Partnering with people to live their optimal health and happiness is my passion. Let’s do this! Check out the 1:1 Coaching page and schedule a free 30-minute informational call today.

2 thoughts on “My Transformation from Stuck to Sticky”

    1. Hi Frank M,

      Thanks for taking the time to read my story and for the Congratulations. I imagine I will tip toe into stuckness again. Really living my life means staying awake for it and paying attention. I continue to learn and share.

      In Health + Happiness,
      meg

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